Life is full of good and bad experiences, but how we deal with those experiences is up to us. Here are 10 steps to help guide you to adapt and deal with difficult situations.
Develop supportive relationships.
Everyone needs to have people in their life that they can talk to, share stories with, laugh with and ask for advice or help. These people can be family, friends, or even members of staff. Accept help and support, and help others when they need it.
Accept that some things are beyond your control.
Try not to dwell thinking about the things that you cannot change. Worrying and stressing about things that you cannot control is a waste of energy. Instead, think of things that you can control, and utilize those to help you navigate your problem.
Accept that change is a part of life.
Big changes (like moving house, changing course, moving away from friends) can be difficult at the start, but try to remind yourself that you are moving forward, not backwards. Be happy that things have happened, rather than being sad that they’re over.
Set realistic goals and take regular small steps towards achieving them.
Ask yourself: “What’s the one thing I can accomplish today?” It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by college work and other things in your life that need to be done. Try to break these big things into smaller more manageable pieces. Try to achieve one thing every day, no matter how small.
Don’t avoid problems.
Avoiding a problem won’t make it disappear, it will just prolong the amount of time you are stressing about it. If you have to do something difficult, do it now, rather than later. Otherwise it will just start to seem bigger and scarier than it actually is. It’s like pulling off a plaster, don’t overthink it, just do it!
Learn from difficult or upsetting experiences.
Try to understand what you’ve been though and appreciate that these things have made you a stronger person.
Think about yourself in a positive way.
Often, people are their own toughest critic. Try to be aware of when you are thinking negatively about yourself. When you have thoughts like “I’m so stupid”, “I’m annoying everybody”, “I’m fat”. These kind of thoughts can
Try to put things into perspective.
When we are going through a difficult time, small things can seem like the most important thing in the world. Try to ask yourself, in five years’ time, will I still think this is as important as I do now?
Be positive and optimistic.
Try to visualize what you want, rather than worrying about what you are afraid of.
Look after yourself.
The most important thing to focus on, is your health, both physical and mental. Exams can be repeated, classes can be missed you could even return to university later in life if you need to. It mightn’t feel like it at the time, but looking after yourself is more important than anything that college can offer.